SUGAR DADDIES THAT JUST WANT TO TALK FREE

But in the 21st century, as women earn more money and sexual double standards slowly loosen, some women are using their earning power to hire lovers and companions. In the US, the ability for women to pay for sex has historically been difficult. In ancient Rome, according to historian Nils Johan Ringdal in Love for Sale, women paid gladiators to have sex with them. Rich women have always been willing to pay for sex and companionship. And although the online element is new, women paying for sex is not. While most sugar relationships have historically involved an older man with a younger woman, a growing portion of the community consists of lesbian relationships. There are more than 8 million women sugar babies on the site, but only 1% of them are seeking other women for a sugar relationship. According to a spokesperson for, 8% of the site’s sugar mamas are searching for women.

The top website for the “sugaring” community,, boasts 370,498 sugar mamas, representing 15.4% of the sugar parents (or “glucose guardians”) on the site. Jessica is just one of the hundreds of thousands of sugar mamas in the United States who support people in exchange for everything from spending time together to recording made-to-order porn. I spoke to 15 queer sugar babies and sugar mamas on various sugaring websites to learn more about their relationships. (Names have been changed throughout this story.) It really helps you figure out compatibility and manage expectations.” Jessica provides Cassie with a “four-figure monthly allowance” to spend time with her. I wish more relationships started like that. When you become a sugar baby, she said, “There is a conversation about expectations for the relationship frequency of dates, communication preferences. Cassie also liked how clear the parameters of the relationship were from the beginning.

SUGAR DADDIES THAT JUST WANT TO TALK FREE

I don’t have a bunch of free time, especially since I do need quite a bit of downtime, being an introvert in a quite extroverted job,” she said. (This is her first sugar relationship.) “I keep myself busy with work, running, and other hobbies. “I have been blessed by the sugar gods.”Ĭassie, who is a healthcare social worker, said she became a sugar baby not only for the money but also because it was “a lower time commitment” than an unpaid relationship. “I was not actively searching for but found one by complete random chance,” Cassie told me. I expected nothing other than maybe a lockdown texting buddy.” They were soon texting all the time, and Jessica asked her to be her sugar baby. They found each other on a discussion forum (the name of which they wanted to keep secret) after Jessica posted that she was “feeling lonely at the prospect of a lockdown,” Cassie said. Jessica didn’t meet her most recent sugar baby, Cassie, until last March. “Rinsing” is lingo in the sugar world for when a sugar baby implies there will be a sexual relationship but never follows through.

“ emotionally manipulating me which eventually led to her rinsing me,” she said. She had two short-lived relationships with women she found through, but, she said, “both basically treated like an ATM.” One watched the clock during their dates. Usually, she said, sugar mamas and babies hash out the details before any sex takes place, including a price per meeting or allowance, negative STD results, safe sex protocols, and communication methods, such as the frequency of texts, FaceTime calls, and phone calls. Jessica, who lives in a Midwestern city, was drawn to the “fuss-free physical relationship” of sugaring. I could therefore pick any SB I want from the many who are interested to be with me.” “Many female are fluid in their sexuality these days and would sometimes prefer having a over a as a safer option. With the vanilla matches, they would ask to meet on weekdays when I would be busy with work and would get upset or blow up my phone with text messages when I would decline to meet up.” She paid $90 to create a profile and was quickly impressed by the results. “I work upwards of 50 hours a week and would only be able to meet on weekends. “Two things I was looking for in potential partners could not be met with these - communication and boundaries,” she told me about women she met on dating apps in an interview in early February.

Fed up with dating apps like Her and Tinder, Jessica, a manager for a tech company in her mid-thirties, decided to make a profile on (now ), a website for people looking for sugar babies.

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